Like most people, I heard about the alleged beating of Rihanna and all the gory details.  It was during this time that I learned that Chris Brown is 19 years old.  That got me thinking about teen dating abuse and how important it is to be aware of the warning signs of an abusive relationship.
Early signs of an abusive or controlling relationship are usually isolation and anxiety.  Girls in these relationships often withdraw from friends and avoid social situations.  Eventually a girl may withdraw from her family and spend time exclusively with her boyfriend.  Abusive boyfriends tend to impose social restrictions in an attempt to foster an emotional dependency, and this can make it hard for a girl to leave.  (By the way, I heard Rihanna and Chris had a reunion and might reconcile).
If you believe your child may be in a destructive relationship, trust your intuition and discuss your concerns and observations.  Your daughter may be in denial and think that things will change.  Sheryl Cates, CEO of the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline, has reported that there is an 80%  risk or higher that another abusive incident could happen, once an incident like the one between Rihanna and Chris Brown occurs.
Talk to your children before they start dating.  Get to know the people they socialize with.  As with all parenting issues, large and small, keep the lines of communication open.

By Donna Kane, MA, Jewish Community Services, Baltimore, MD

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