Last week’s funeral at Beth El Congregation to mourn the loss of Rabbi Mark G. Loeb was a veritable “Who’s Who of Baltimore Jewry.”

I must admit, I didn’t see too many “black hats” in the crowd—not a shocker since Rabbi Loeb always wore his liberal views on his sleeve, thus becoming the embodiment of everything that’s wrong with left-of-center Judaism to some frum folks.

But I did see people there from across the denominational and congregational divides, demonstrating how well-respected Rabbi Loeb was among his fellow Jews (and non-Jews, since I noticed a number of Christian clergy there as well).

Among those in attendance was Rabbi Jacob A. Max, the former rabbi emeritus of Moses Montefiore Anshe Emunah (MMAE) Hebrew Congregation, a shul still known fondly in some circles as Liberty Jewish Center. As you likely know, Rabbi Max, 85, was convicted last April of molesting an employee at the Sol Levinson & Bros. funeral home. In subsequent BALTIMORE JEWISH TIMES articles, other women came forward with their stories of inappropriate and indecent behavior toward them allegedly exhibited by Rabbi Max over the years. (No need to go into the gory details again.)

Since then, Rabbi Max has resigned from the Baltimore Board of Rabbis, shortly before they voted to discontinue his membership, and MMAE decided to suspend his title as rabbi emeritus and remove a polished stone bearing his name and proclaiming their campus in his honor.

All in all, it’s quite a fall from grace.

But there he was, at Rabbi Loeb’s funeral, looking well and smiling broadly. It’s a smile I know well. Rabbi Max officiated at my wedding and the wedding of parents in 1961, back when Liberty Jewish Center was located on Marmon Avenue in Howard Park. He was there for all of our family life-cycle events (save for my bar mitzvah), and he was always a source of great comfort and warmth to us.

Now, of course, I view this cordial, gregarious man with admittedly mixed feelings. At Beth El, to my surprise, Rabbi Max was greeted quite warmly by others in the audience. He was sitting only a few rows ahead of me, so I watched closely. (Couldn’t help it.)

At one point during the funeral, Rabbi Max got up and walked out of the sanctuary for a few minutes. While he walked up the aisle, one man arose, offered a handshake and hugged the rabbi. Others smiled, nodded and waved at him.

Is all forgiven? Has the community moved on and granted teshuvah for this man who, according to the American legal system, did something wrongful to a woman, something I think most of us would agree is not terribly rabbinical?

I couldn’t help but notice that most of those people who were pleasant to Rabbi Max at the funeral were older. Maybe it’s a generational thing. Maybe senior citizens don’t get all the fuss about sexual molestation, or are a little more forgiving and understanding than the younger set.

Maybe we just don’t want to deal with the whole odious matter anymore, so we say, “Let’s go forward, he made a mistake.” Or maybe people wanted to just let him mourn his friend, Rabbi Loeb, without bringing anything ugly into the equation – “It’s not the proper place.”

A day after the funeral, I chatted with a friend who works at a local synagogue about this subject. My main feeling was that I felt a sense of shock and maybe a grudging admiration for Rabbi Max’s (there’s no other word for it) chutzpah about showing his face in public, no less at a mega-shul holding a major communal event.

Me, I’d be in Nome, Alaska, where no one knows me. (Seals don’t know from molestation convictions.)

My friend explained that Rabbi Max ain’t the type to run off to Nome and hide. After all, he does come from the generation that kicked Hitler’s and Mussolini’s butts.

“He’s got a point to make,” said my pal. “He wants to show his face and be out there. He feels he has nothing to hide, did nothing wrong, and wants the world to see him smiling. He’s in denial about his problem, so he goes out there and does his thing. That’s just the way guys like him are, that’s how they’re built.”

I’m not sure whether that’s true or not, but when you see such stubborn chutzpah in action, it does take your breath away. And I couldn’t help but think of those women who say their lives have been greatly marred by Rabbi Max’s alleged behavior over the past decades and the community leaders and members who turned their eyes away and made excuses for him. I wonder how these women would feel about seeing him there, smiling and laughing and schmoozing.

But then again, he has been punished, in a court of law and, worse yet, in the public eye. And my guess is that in his most private of moments, he beats himself up pretty good as well.

My goodness Mr. Feiler.  Your friend must be quite talented to make the statement you wrote in your article about Rabbi Max.

“He’s got a point to make,” said my pal. “He wants to show his face and be out there. He feels he has nothing to hide, did nothing wrong, and wants the world to see him smiling. He’s in denial about his problem, so he goes out there and does his thing. That’s just the way guys like him are, that’s how they’re built.”

I wonder if your friend is a mindreader, and you as well as your comment states what people should say.  I believe you wrote “What people should say to Rabbi Max is, “I’m always happy to see you because you did so much for so many, but we really need you to acknowledge what you did and apologize. Then we can move forward.”

Then you had the——- to write “Until that happens, he only continues to hurt the community and the people who trust(ed) him.”

How is he hurting the community?  The people who trust him were obviously not negatively affected by anything.  The reason some people were kind in greeting Rabbi Max is because he is a citizen who has the right to mourn someones passing just like all the others in attendance.  He is not barred from mourning, is he?

I am shocked that the Jewish Times would take Rabbi Max’s money for advertising for so many years, and actually do a cover story on him years ago praising him, then throw him under the bus time after time, even when the readers are so sick of hearing the same thing over and over.  Can’t you get some real news?  That’s old news.  Enough already.  Those who will forgive, have.  Those who haven’t yet, won’t.

I feel bad for those who feel that they can’t and won’t forgive, but it doesn’t change anything.

Get on with the real news, please!

The Jewish Times seems never to miss an opportunity to bash the Orthodox.

No, not Rabbi Max, but what can Feiler intend by this passage?

“I must admit, I didn’t see too many “black hats” in the crowd….”

How many is not “too many,” and did Feiler conduct some sort of poll of the other mourners to determine what “kind” of Jews they were? Or, more likely, did he merely survey the room visually, and divide it into “black hats” and his kind of Jews?

It occurs to me that there is a stark and painfully revealing similarity between Feiler singling out “the black hats” and the reason why, almost one year ago, muslim jihadi killers just happened to find their way to the Chabad House in Mumbai, India, a huge city with a mere handful of Jews: the “black hats” are conspicuously Jewish and are easily identified as such. They can be, and frequently are, attacked all too easily.

Readers of this publication ought to track how regularly and repeatedly our fellow Jews are singled out by its publisher, editors and main blog writers.

And then ask: why?  What purpose does this serve?

What baseless hatred lurks in the hearts of Buerger, Jacobs, Rubin, and Feiler?

What people should say to Rabbi Max is, “I’m always happy to see you because you did so much for so many, but we really need you to acknowledge what you did and apologize. Then we can move forward.”

Until that happens, he only continues to hurt the community and the people who trust(ed) him.